An Unexpected Intimacy

I've never liked labels on sexuality. Hetero/homo/bi, dominant/submissive/switch, masculine/feminine/non-binary…these seem to imply that we're only ever one thing. But there are so many ways in which we can change depending upon the circumstances and who we're with, in the moment.

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I Love You, But I Don’t Need You

People believe that love itself is what makes a relationship strong and leads to happiness; that is, a person needs only find a powerful love with an equally matched partner and lifelong happiness will follow. Therefore if the one we love leaves or if the love fades, then so, too, does our happiness. But what if the truth is actually the reverse of that?

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Q&A: I Want To Break Up With My Girlfriend, But I Don’t Have A Reason Why

Ryan, I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year and I have the sense that I want to break up. I feel like I'm a different person when she's not around—less stressed, more able to act out and be myself, more excited and natural when I'm with my friends. At the same time, the relationship is good. We deal with problems maturely, we're affectionate, and we're both in love with each other. Should I break up? And if I did, what would my reason be? Thanks, E.

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Q&A: I’m Dating Two Women And I Don’t Know Which To Choose

Ryan, I'm a man currently in separate relationships with two different women. I love both of them. Neither of them knows about each other and each would be devastated if they discovered that I was in another relationship. As a monogamous man, eventually I'll have to choose one of them to pursue long-term. Each woman has their pros and cons. How do I choose between them? Thanks, S.

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Empathy, Intuition, Clairvoyance

The clairvoyant arts include astrology, tarot, palmistry, numerology, cleromancy, rune reading, and more. At the core of all of these is a concept called "cold reading". That is the ability to use very little information about a person in order to infer knowledge about them and to use the person's responses to peer still deeper into who they are. In a short time, you can demonstrate extraordinary powers of perception.

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When Non-Monogamy Is Not A Solution

Opening up a relationship introduces a lot of stress; it's not easy. Even if it might be part of a solution, it's better to work on the fundamentals of a relationship before you take this last, most impactful step.

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The Benefits of Dating Around

There are a wide variety of people, of sexual preferences, of relationships styles. There is value in a fling, and there is value in finding someone who pushes your sexual boundaries and exposes you to new pleasures you didn't know possible. These are not one-time, throwaway lessons. Rather, these lessons are carried with you throughout your entire life.

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