Ryan, I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year and I have the sense that I want to break up. I feel like I'm a different person when she's not around—less stressed, more able to act out and be myself, more excited and natural when I'm with my friends. At the same time, the relationship is good. We deal with problems maturely, we're affectionate, and we're both in love with each other. Should I break up? And if I did, what would my reason be? Thanks, E.
Opening up a relationship introduces a lot of stress; it's not easy. Even if it might be part of a solution, it's better to work on the fundamentals of a relationship before you take this last, most impactful step.
Why is it so difficult to compromise effectively? And why does resentment seem to creep into a loving relationship? If you can answer those questions before the resentment is felt, then you can reduce the pain of a bad breakup, or eliminate the need to break up altogether.