People believe that love itself is what makes a relationship strong and leads to happiness; that is, a person needs only find a powerful love with an equally matched partner and lifelong happiness will follow. Therefore if the one we love leaves or if the love fades, then so, too, does our happiness. But what if the truth is actually the reverse of that?
Ryan, I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year and I have the sense that I want to break up. I feel like I'm a different person when she's not around—less stressed, more able to act out and be myself, more excited and natural when I'm with my friends. At the same time, the relationship is good. We deal with problems maturely, we're affectionate, and we're both in love with each other. Should I break up? And if I did, what would my reason be? Thanks, E.